When a family unit falls apart, it’s not easy for the adults to cope — so you definitely can’t expect your kids to get through your divorce without a little help.
Naturally, every kid is different, and not every kid can fully express their thoughts or feelings. Some may have questions they simply can’t articulate — and others may be afraid to hurt you by saying the wrong thing. Some may even blame themselves for your marital problems.
What’s an anxious parent to do?
The following reading list can help your child manage during this difficult time:
- Mum and Dad Glue by Kes Gray and Lee Wildish. This book can help your child understand that your marriage isn’t theirs to fix — and your divorce isn’t their fault.
- Dinosaurs Divorce: A Guide For Changing Families by Laurie Krasny Brown and Marc Brown. This book can help young children understand the changes that are coming and how to talk about the situation to others.
- When Parents Separate by Dawn Hewitt and Ximena Jeria. This book can help your child put words to a lot of unfamiliar feelings they may be having. In turn, that can help your child learn how to express their thoughts about the divorce verbally, instead of acting out.
- Two Homes by Claire Masurel and Kady MacDonald Denton. As your child adjusts to two homes with two sets of rules, this book can help them understand — and even appreciate — the differences.
- Divorce Is Not the End of the World by Zoe and Even Stern with Ellen Sue Stern. This book was written by teenagers who went through their parents’ divorce as a guide for middle school kids, so it offers a unique peer-to-peer perspective your children may appreciate.
As you go through your divorce, there will be a lot on your plate. But take the time to sit down with your children and help them understand that you’ll still be a family, even if the shape of that family has to change.