With the upcoming winter holidays only a few short weeks away, it’s time to do any last-minute tweaking to your holiday child custody plans. This has been a year like no other in recent memory, so some adjustments may need to be made in order to ensure that there is an orderly transition from one parent’s home to the other’s over the holidays.
Below are some things to keep in mind that can help reduce stress and tension between you and your former spouse or partner.
It’s okay to do things differently
In all likelihood, your holiday plans may be quite different from holidays past. Out-of-town grandparents and other extended family members may be celebrating in their own homes this year. If it was a holiday tradition for the children to gather together on Christmas Eve with extended family from out of town and celebrate the big day with their other side of the family, you and your ex might need to rethink your choices this year.
Scaling back on gifts is fine, too
Many parents have been furloughed or had their hours cut at work, reducing their wages and buying power substantially. If you cannot spend as much as you have in prior years — that’s fine. Discussing your financial situation with your co-parent may help you arrive at a spending compromise this holiday season.
Establish new traditions to replace the old
Different times call for different traditions. Get creative! You can have a holiday bake-off via zoom with distant relatives or host a virtual Ugly Holiday Sweater party. Encourage the kids to do Secret Santa exchanges with cousins who live out of town. There really is no limit to the new traditions you can start this year.
We can help you review any obstacles with your custody plan
Do you feel like you are running up against a brick wall trying to get your intransigent spouse to agree to a compromise? We can help you review your custody agreement and recommend a modification if necessary.